Holy crap is there ever a lot of details to think about when trying to find espresso heaven! Haha, I feel like such a dolt for some of the things that i'm doing to "try" and reach heaven, and then reading what you've written and am thinking: "Okay... I won't be doing that again!" What a learning experience.
I think i'll stay with my grinder for now, it seems to produce a very nice grind (and as far as finest settings, it goes to a setting called "turkish" - which is super fine and i don't think would work for the PF - too fine) so we'll see how it holds up. I think i need to focus on whether i want to stick with the pressurized PF (which i don') and convincing my non-coffee drinking husband that i need these additional 'parts' for the machine so that i can get a non-pressurized filter (to see the difference) and i'd like to get a bottomless PF so that i can see what kind of extraction i'm getting and learn from it.
A lot of the pictures on home barista of extractions with a bottomless PF are an orange colour.... i am wondering what makes this orange/caramel colour. When i pull a shot it is very dark, and the "crema" (haha - the crema is a joke - too much froth) is like a dull ash brown. I don't know, it just doesn't look as appealing as the photos!
Heh, I'm just running over all the advice i've been given over the holidays and here on home barista, and i am surprised that i'm not just overwhelmed completely.
On the bright side, I made a cappuccino today that tasted quite good, (the shots i'm pulling these days need milk,

) i made 3 1/2oz of espresso for it, otherwise there is so much room left in the cup for milk that i get a little liberal with it and it turns into a latte, which i'm not too fond of that over-milk taste
A question though about cleaning the machine, is the showerscreen the screen in the "group head"? i remove that with a screw right? I haven't really looked at the machine and it's parts too closely (although i did carefully take apart the PF to see if it was dirty and i thought that if you removed the bottom it would magically become a bottomless PF

) but i think there is a screw to remove the screen. What kind of detergent should i use to remove the screen, and can i use lemon juice to descale it (or are you all laughing at me now)? I purchased it used from a lady here in town and i don 't think she's ever descaled it. the machine is quite clean in appearance but i don't know about the guts, if they are clean. So is there a better descaling agent (i have a tiny bit of descaling agent from melita but i doubt that it's enough) that i can use... the barista instructions are not that detailed to me.
Okay, work is getting busy - got to wrap this up, thanks again for all the information, i really appreciate it!