Enter the Toroid. Now, I can't compare it to a more "typical" pitcher, as I don't have the necessary experience. Perhaps that's a good thing, since most of the negative reviews I have read about the Toroid came from those who couldn't seem to adapt to it. My findings with it, though, are as follows.
1) The handle fits my fingertips perfectly. Please note that I am a woman with very long, slender fingers. If my hands were any bigger I would probably hold the handle with only 2-3 fingers.
2) It has a substantial weight to it for its size. It's labeled as 20oz, but the instructions suggest a milk volume of 6-10oz. I tend to be steaming the low end of that, if not a little less, and I can reach the milk just fine with my short/crappy/generally annoying Carezza steam wand. It helps to point the spout of the pitcher so it can slide up and behind the bend of the wand until the milk expands a bit.
3) As long as I have the steam opened more than a crack, I can reliably get almost any shape of whirlpool or toroid going that I desire. This did take a little practice, which I did with water as to not waste milk. The trick is to think about where the wand is pointing. Point it more or less perfectly at the raised point in the bottom center of the jug, and you get a toroid. Aim to one side of that point and you get a toroid heavy to the other side. Aim it more towards the wall, and you get a whirlpool. I find the whirlpool doesn't seem to get the full depth of the milk, but it's great for breaking any stubborn bubbles on the surface. The trick? Play around and really observe how small changes affect the shape of the milk.
4) My general routine is to stretch the milk with the wand pointed towards the center/bottom of the jug. If the steam is on full power, this actually stretches and makes a toroid at the same time. If I want thinner microfoam, I stretch until the sides of the pitcher are not cold anymore. If I want thicker microfoam, I stretch a little longer, until the jug starts to feel warm. I can also get a pretty good feel for where I'm at by what the milk looks like in the toroid. When its time to just heat, put the wand a little deeper, create a good toroid, and shift it around a little bit (from side to side, more to a whirlpool and back, etc) if needed to get any stubborn bubbles. On a REALLY good day, I never actually see any bubbles - even while stretching. On a bad day, I blow a couple soap bubbles, but the toroid eats them up just fine.
5) The verdict? I like the toroid. I've consistently made microfoam EVERY single time since I first put milk in it (after playing around with water for a few minutes the first time). It pairs well with my Gaggia Carezza, which has a not terribly forgiving steam wand. I'm slowly getting better at latte art. I can keep a good consistent pour going with this jug, I'm just still learning how to move/shake the jug to get the design I want.
6) Worth spending the extra money? I don't regret my husband buying it, because I really like it. Is it leaps and bounds better than anything else out there? No idea. Donate your pitcher of interest to me and I'll do a side by side comparison for ya.
EDIT: I have posted 2 videos showing the Toroid in action - they're in 2 posts farther down in this thread




