I'm still pretty much an espresso noob

, but I'll try explaining what I do. I work at my local coffeeshop, and they have a Grimac La Vittoria 2-group, which has 4-hole steam tips. I don't want to make any generalizations, because your tip might be different than "mine," but I'll try to explain what I do to get OK microfoam.... (note: I say "ok" because, like I said, I'm a noob and I am
very far from excellent microfoam.) I should probably warn you that since this is in a coffee shop, I'm using upwards of 38 oz steaming pitchers (which, to me, seems kind of counter-intuitive, since our largest drink size is 16 oz). So because I'm working with large steaming pitchers, what I'm writing might not work for you.
Anyway, with the 4-hole tip, even with the commercial steaming power, I can't easily get the "standing wave of turbulence." I go for the "whirlpool" action.
As for overall wand placement, I angle the wand slightly. Not 45* from the machine or anything drastic like that--just NOT vertical. I spin the milk clockwise, so for me that means placing the tip near the right of the pitcher, facing the steam wand/machine. For stretching, I start with the tip placed right up next to the edge of the pitcher and that helps with stability. I try to get that "paper tearing" sound to varying degrees, depending on what kind of drink I'm making, so more for a capp than for a latte....Then, for the "whirling" part (which I start when the milk gets the slightest bit warm to the touch), I move the tip to about halfway between the center of the pitcher and the edge, and just
barely below the surface of the milk, so that sometimes there's a "sucking/whoosh" sound, but never that "paper tearing" sound. That area seems to get the fastest whirlpool action. During the time it takes to get up to 160*, I try to get rid of all the big bubbles if there are any, by "sucking" them into the whirlpool. With the tip up next to the edge of the pitcher (in the stretching phase), the whirlpool action isn't as fast, but it's still there. Oh yeah, and, I keep the steam valve all the way open the whole time.
I'm still experimenting with wand direction/angle myself, but this is what I've had the best results with so far.
HTH.