I think I have figured it out (or at least I know what I want to try tomorrow).
My problem: too much headspace post tamp
Why: I have been dosing 14g by weight but using a very fine grind. After tamping the basket is barely half full. Yeah the grind is that fine. This may explain my initial black madness.
Tomorrow: I'm going to try a coarser grind that will allow the basket to fill, WDT, then level and tamp to 35lbs. I want to have the proper headroom post tamp this will be my goal. With the coarser grind I should (I think...oh boy...here I go) be able to more fill the basket yet not use too much coffee and avoid (hopefully) over extraction.
In short: Adjust grind to allow filling of basket, leveling without tap settling and tamping to 35lbs in hopes to get proper headspace. Adjust grind as needed via shot performance/taste.
Question: With my Gaggia double, I should be able to fill the basket and if my grind is "proper" I shouldn't be able to get much more than 14g or so in it (without a tap to settle grounds), correct? I tried a full, then level, then tamp thing today and then weighed the basket. A whopping 20g of coffee! Yikes! I was doing several taps to settle the grounds while filling the basket! That's it, that's my flaw. Dan I have read that you do this once or so to overdose, turns out I have been doing this thinking it was helping distribution what I wasn't realizing is that it was also allowing me to add way too much coffee to the basket! "ding ding"
The pieces of the puzzle are starting to come together in my mind as I try new things. I really appreciate all your help guys and this great community. This sure is a lot of fun!

Here is my 20g double

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