Not to be rude, but you need to recharge when you have saturated the capacity of the softener resin to reduce the harness of your water. You need to get yourself some test strips or a harness test kit so that you can monitor your water and know when to recharge. The time period is a function of your input water (the input harness) and the amount of water that you soften (run through the resin).
I use the following strips and find them to be cheap and accurate enough for me to monitor my softener.
http://www.diywatertesting.com/sofchekx3.htmlThese have a better range (finer and clearer differences) compared to some of the other strips that I have tried, and they are the cheapest that I have found.
Good luck,
Mark