ok, this was interesting. One of the SSR top wires read about 17 volts and the other read 2.5....
When I trace the wire at 17 volts, I am nearly positive it goes to this:

Not sure what that is, so I haven't gone to messing with it just yet.
OK I'm trying to get this electricity stuff, but I think the past few messages went over my head. I can try to make a very rudimentary sketch of they way the wires are getting to and from the heater element terminals. I'll get to work on that. So great to get all this help gentlemen! You're willing to give so freely of your time and energy. Thank you.