. . . it has the newer style round Giemme pressure switch.
Maybe you mean CEME - but those are as quiet as a mouse
For the steam boiler - a CEME pstat is a tad less than 1.375" in diameter and is USUALLY arranged to control a solid state relay. They are simply not built to handle (long term) the amperage of the steam boiler even at 220-240 VAC. That solid state relay may very well be "concealed" in the electronics box. Take the above with a grain of salt.
For the brew boiler - the Linea standard was/is(?) an installed LM mechanical thermostat - this is what I believe (heavy emphasis) may be annoying your wife. For sure I know how to improve this but hey - TerryZ at EPNW has a thermocouple and PID controller kit to improve this that has been applied probably a hundred times or more and is as track proven as it gets.
I'm familar with the Linea but not as much as others - we all have our cup's of tea.